On November 13, 2010 I gladly became the primary caregiver of my mother. She has Lewy Body Dementia, the second most common memory loss condition after Alzhiemers. I knew nothing about Lewy Body Dementia until I brought Mom to Indiana to live with me. My mother is a resident at the Waters of Covington, a rehabilitation center near our home. I would like to have her live with us but her care is more then one person can provide. The staff at the Waters fell in love with Mom immediately. She may be losing her memory and her ability to care for herself but she hasn't lost her sense of humor or her gentle grace. This blog is meant to be a journal of our days together.



On May 15, 2011 My Mother peacefully and fearlessly passed into the here after. Now I journey alone, yet not alone. I have a lifetime of memories.




Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Grief is an Individual process

I am so not with it today. But I will fight to do what I have to. After tomorrow I will have completed my first FULL work week since Mom died. I am so sad that I haven't been more sensitve to others pain after a loss of a loved one. Experiencing this for myself really opens my eyes to the emotional pain that surrounds a death. I sure hope in the future I will be more attentive.

I REALLY hate how everything has gone back to normal for EVERYONE except me. I hate the fact that I have NO control over how I feel from day to day. I cannot set my will to be strong or even give up and be a total whimp. Greif has a life of it's own. It carries me allow with or against my will. It is a craziness that is unpredictable. All my good intentions, self preserving defense mechinisms are usless. I am a small rubber ball being bounced about by big merciless waves . None of the rules apply now.

Work is my most merciless environement.  I honestly do not know what to expect. The music helps the most. I play it almost continueously. At home I wonder from room to room. I'll be glad when the truck is fixed. The walks in the morning helped steady my emotions before work.

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