On November 13, 2010 I gladly became the primary caregiver of my mother. She has Lewy Body Dementia, the second most common memory loss condition after Alzhiemers. I knew nothing about Lewy Body Dementia until I brought Mom to Indiana to live with me. My mother is a resident at the Waters of Covington, a rehabilitation center near our home. I would like to have her live with us but her care is more then one person can provide. The staff at the Waters fell in love with Mom immediately. She may be losing her memory and her ability to care for herself but she hasn't lost her sense of humor or her gentle grace. This blog is meant to be a journal of our days together.



On May 15, 2011 My Mother peacefully and fearlessly passed into the here after. Now I journey alone, yet not alone. I have a lifetime of memories.




Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Day 10

Last night was just as aweful as I imagined it would be. The furneral home director came to the door and handed me a black plastic square box the size of a coffee can. I looked at it and thought this can't be what used to me my mother. I cried.

I tried to do my homework but the black box kept coming to mind. I watched Idol. I didn't enjoy it or do I care who wins tonight. I finally just went to bed.

This morning I forgot to feed my cat. Poor cat. I will feed him when I get home tonight. It looked like rain so I took my umbrella with me and I went to my favorite place to walk. It took me 15 minutes longer to walk. I wasn't trying to walk fast. I just walked. Actually, I feel better. The walks HAVE to be a part of my days for awhile.

I thought about this or that. I wondered who first thought of ghosts. How did the myth of ghosts get started? or mummys, or zombies. Who started turning death into something ugly? I wanted to feel Mom close. I didn't today. I have though and I'm sure I will again. I will welcome the sense of her. I hung the windchime I bought for her while she was in the nursing home in front of my office window. I get pleasure making it chime as I walk by. I smile as I listen to the tinkling and watch the prisms dance. For now ANY little thing that reminds me of her brings me pleasure. The other stuff I just shut it down.

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